How NOT to Loathe Your Wedding Photos - Tobin Photography

How NOT to Loathe Your Wedding Photos


Yesterday I showed my wife’s cousin, Molly, my wedding photography and she began crying…like, immediately. “Wow,” I thought! My pictures really moved her! I was only half right. Turns out that while she WAS moved by my photos, she was really crying out of sadness for not having wonderful photos like the ones I create, by which to remember her own wedding.

“I wish I had even ONE photograph I truly love from my wedding,” she sobbed.

She went on to explain that she and her honey decided to spend more on their venue, caterer, and flowers, and photography sort of just “got what was left” after that. The result was a photographer, who, while she was “affordable”, took photos that were, in Molly’s words, just sort of “meh”. So “meh”, in fact, that she doesn’t even have any hanging up around her house. I’ve seen ’em, actually, and there’s certainly nothing in them that smacks of the awesome love-fest I hear their wedding was.

So instead of beautiful, timeless, artistic records of her wedding for her, her children and grandchildren to relive and remember her wedding, what she’s left with is regret and sadness. Ouch.

She told me that if there were ONE THING she could have done differently for her wedding it would have been to invest in great photography. Now, this was an extreme case because Molly was recounting her story through her tears, but I hear stories like this all the time.

Usually it happens when a new friend sees my wedding photography for the first time. It goes pretty much the same way each time…they’ll divulge their own regrets about having not placed high enough priority on their photography as they peruse my photos, and how how bummed they are about their own less-than-lovely wedding photos.

The point is…whether or not it’s a fit for me to shoot your wedding, I urge this of you: make photography a REAL priority for your wedding.

Your wedding photographs are forever. Long after the memory of the food, flowers, and even your venue have faded, your photographs are what you and your family (for generations) will have to remember your wedding…
which is what, makes wedding photography the only true investment in your budget. Everything else is here today and gone tomorrow. Poof!

If you’d like to learn more about how you can have me create precious family heirlooms of your wedding day, then visit my contact page and we’ll set up a time for a call where we can talk about what’s most important to you
for your wedding photography. I’m not the best fit for every couple though…if you’re looking for super “posed,” highly conventional photos, you’re probably better off working with someone else, as my work is heavy on genuine, authentic emotion, and light on the posing…and yes, it’s that way on purpose.